Life lesson #4 – life is not just about performance

My recent summer holiday in Wales coincided with me reading an inspiring book called ‘Running Free’ by Richard Askwith and this happy coincidence has reinforced in me a set of running/life values to go back to basics and back to nature in my running. In his book, the author describes his own process of escaping from the commercial layers of running and reconnecting with nature through running. He talks about ‘Big Running’ – a huge multi-billion dollar global industry with everything you could ever want and all the things you never knew you wanted, to enhance your running performance (specially designed footwear, heart-rate monitors, energy gels, electrolyte drinks, GPS route & data recorder, ipod armband, specially designed compression shorts and socks, digital wristbands/mobile health devices… etc.) Some of these things may be genuinely useful, but it’s the incessant “this is indispensable/must-have” sales pitch that the writer objects to, which can deceive the uninitiated into thinking that we absolutely need all of these things to be a runner and that this is the only way to run. If I was, say, the next Paula Radcliffe, these pieces of highly developed, advanced technology may help me to make the marginal gains that are key for elite athletes. However, I’m not and never will be an elite athlete and I have learnt a valuable lesson in opening my eyes to the fact that running is a commercial industry, and just like any other, their success depends on us believing that we ‘need’ their products.

The writer, however, has discovered an alternative which he calls ‘Slow Running’ and I believe this is what I also discovered while on holiday in Wales. This is a back-to-basics style of running which is outdoors, exploring nature, sometimes getting lost, where the primary motivation is not to achieve ‘marginal gains’ or a personal best time, but instead you run for the joy of running in nature, in a constantly changing and beautiful environment, where the same route is different every time you run it (due to a change of season, time of day, weather etc). Running that is solely performance centred drives the ‘need’ to constantly record and improve performance (which in turn drives ‘Big Running’) and can be hugely motivational for many people, but I have realised that this is not the only way of running.

During my Gower Peninsular holiday, I went on a training run (training for the Royal Parks Half-Marathon in October) and ran outdoors in the hills overlooking the stunning beaches of the Gower Peninsular (see picture.) On this run, I rediscovered the sheer unbridled joy of running in nature. I didn’t know precisely where I was running to and there was a distinct possibility of getting lost, but it didn’t matter. I don’t know exactly how far I ran and in what time I ran that distance but I didn’t care. I had rediscovered running for pleasure, with the wind in my face, the sun shining on me, stunning views all around me, butterflies flying past me and bumblebees doing their amazing work. I felt liberated from the constraints of performance orientated running, of sticking religiously to a training programme, of being more concerned with my time per mile than my own personal enjoyment.

In life, as with runners, we can become so obsessed with performance, with results, with putting our head down to achieve the desired outcome, that we become blinkered to the beauty of nature, of people and of life around us. We can end up focusing so much on the performance and the result, that we forget to slow down and enjoy the process; we also forget the value of enjoyment which ultimately is hugely important for motivation. In terms of running, there are so many mental health benefits to running in open green spaces where the scenery changes, the conditions underfoot and overhead are varied and where you notice the growing natural environment around you and its many inhabitants.

I found the whole experience of running in the Gower in the ‘slow running’ style hugely liberating and felt full of life because I got back to basics, back to nature, back to running for the sheer joy of running, without caring about my time or my distance; where getting lost would have just added to the sense of freedom and discovery.

In a society where the pace of life can be so fast and so performance driven, I realise now that I can choose to slow down and look around me and this helps me to appreciate more what I have in life. In this performance centred culture, which then increases the tendency for technology driven running, I feel I can now choose how I run and can even alternate – sometimes running for performance, to push myself and challenge myself, but also never forgetting to run for fun, for sheer pleasure, for the feeling of freedom and for the smile it puts on my face when running among the wonders of nature.

Life Lesson #3 – When the wind is against you, keep going, as it will change

As I was running along the coast recently, I couldn’t believe how hard going it was. I was running into the wind and couldn’t seem to make much headway at all. The wind was screeching in my ears, battering my face and making any forward motion seem like climbing Mount Everest. “I’m not anywhere near as good as I thought I was… why am I finding this so hard when it’s just a bit of wind in my face?” I asked myself. I immediately concluded that it was me, that I was somehow underperforming, inadequate and failing. I started to doubt my ability, my training and my fitness.

After a while of feeling like I was battling and struggling, my route took me inland and the wind therefore was hitting me from a different direction. Everything changed. The noise in my ears died down, the wind was no longer lashing my face and I was able to make forward progress with relative ease. I still had all of the challenges of a long distance run, but no longer felt it was almost one step forwards and two steps backwards. It wasn’t me being inadequate after all; it was just that the wind was against me and I merely needed to push on through until it changed direction or my route changed direction.

In life I feel it’s the same. Sometimes we go through difficult times in life and it’s easy to conclude that our struggles mean that we’re not a good enough parent/sibling/friend/partner/human. We compare ourselves negatively to others who look like they’re juggling their roles in life well, while we feel we’re floundering, treading water and not able to make any forward motion. We doubt ourselves and feel inadequate. However, my conclusion from running is that sometimes in these difficult times, all that’s happening is that the wind is against us and we need to push on through until we or it changes direction. After that, we still have all the challenges of life to face, but moving forward and making progress becomes so much easier.

Honouring my Mum through running

This is my Mum, Jeanette Briault, and she has been in a nursing home for the last nine years, suffering from dementia. I am running the Royal Parks Half-Marathon #RoyalParksHalf on 13th October to honour the amazing woman that my Mum truly is.

Last year, I got married in her wedding dress (pictured) and it was incredibly special to have a part of her with me on that important day. It was gut-wrenching to be denied those mother-daughter moments during the wedding preparations and I felt her absence so strongly and so painfully.

The nature of dementia and the essence of life that it robs has been unbelievably cruel for Mum and for all of us who love her. To have lost my Mum but not be able to have closure to properly grieve is at times unbearable. I have said goodbye to her and I want so much for her sake for her to be released from her suffering and to be at peace. 

My Mum is effectively lying in bed, bound, gagged and shackled by this disease and trapped in a mind and body that no longer perform the most basic human functions. It is agonizing and frustrating that there is nothing I can do to release her from her imprisonment, nor to give her a voice so that she can decide for herself what she wants, but by dedicating this Royal Parks Half-Marathon to her, I can do something to help Dementia UK support and help those who have also been robbed by this cruel disease. 

Dementia UK provides specialist dementia support for families through their Admiral Nurse service. When things get challenging or difficult for people with dementia and their families, Admiral Nurses work alongside them, giving the one-to-one support, expert guidance and practical solutions people need. The unique dementia expertise and experience an Admiral Nurse brings is a lifeline – it helps everyone in the family to live more positively with dementia in the present, and to face the challenges of tomorrow with more confidence and less fear. https://www.dementiauk.org/

I’m learning so much about life through running, but I also learnt a lot of precious lessons from my Mum. Please join me in honouring her – sponsor me if you can: https://uk.virginmoneygiving.com/Team/JonSarahChris

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Life lesson #2 – run your own race

In one of my biggest races of the last few years, it seemed like almost everybody was wearing expensive branded sports gear and looked like top athletes. I, however, was in my cheap and cheerful running gear. I immediately compared myself negatively to them and felt intimidated, like I didn’t belong there. My friend soon pointed out that having an expensive top is highly unlikely to make you run much faster or be the difference between getting across the line and dropping out. For all of us lining up at the start line, our chances in the race depended much more on our preparation, training and mental strength than on our running gear. The pressure to conform, to be like everybody else can be overwhelming and can make us feel inferior, but as I stood on that start line, I realised that part of running that race was being confident in who I was, regardless of what everyone else was wearing or doing. I had to run my own race.

It struck me how quickly we negatively compare ourselves to others in life. Social media can be deceptive; we can easily feel jealous of other people’s seemingly perfect lives, but we often don’t see the blood, sweat and tears they’ve experienced in getting to this point, nor their pain and unhappiness.

The person who comes last in a race might have achieved something greater than we can ever imagine, as they might have moved mountains and sacrificed more of themselves than we will ever know, just to cross the finish line. Each person’s achievement is relative to them (to the context of their lives) and therefore it seems somewhat artificial to compare, as we’re all starting from different start lines; only we know what it took to achieve our goals. We may be judged by our finish time or whether we won or lost, but maybe there are different ways to measure success and achievement in life, ways that focus on who we are and where we’re starting from. We only get one life and it’s so short, so let’s run our own race, compete with ourselves rather than each other, being determined to have grown in who we are compared to yesterday and to have improved on what we achieved before, without focusing on what others are doing.

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About Me

My name is Sarah Briault-Smith and I’ve been a runner on and off for around five years; even when I take a break, I always come back to it eventually. Training for the Royal Parks Half-Marathon in October gives me a target to aim for, a deadline to motivate me, but I’m also learning so much about life from running and with each training session, I find so many parallels between long distance running and life. So, here is my blog about life lessons I’m learning from running.

Lesson #1

Life is not a sprint

“Corr, I could walk faster than she’s running,” shouted a teenage boy in one of my recent running sessions . Rather than interject with a quip, I carried on running… and running… and running, because the point is, it’s not a sprint. Yes, he probably could have walked faster than I was running, but for how far and for how long?

In our age of instant information, instant results and instant media, it’s easy to forget that life isn’t a sprint, it’s a marathon. When we don’t get the instant results we want, it’s easy to give up. However, many things in life are a process, are hard won through the investment of time, practice and energy and are a step-by-step process; running is quite literally that, step-by-step. By focusing on instant results in life, are we missing out on all of the opportunities to learn, grow and be more through making mistakes, adjusting the process, failing and getting back up again? Have we lost sight of the value of that process?

I’ve found in training that it’s only in the doing and the continuing to do that I can see what works, how I can improve, what I can do differently next time, because it’s about the next time and the next time and the next time… And in life, it’s the same. It’s about making mistakes, learning from them, applying what I’ve learnt from them and adjusting, because life isn’t a sprint; it’s a marathon.

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